Your story reminds me of another I'll share.
When I was invited to South Africa I was gifted a weekend at a Game Ranch. The story is one told by our Park Ranger who was explaining animal behavior. Throughout the day we noticed wildebeest with wildebeest, zebra with zebra, springbok with springbok, but as it got later in the day you could see herds gathering together almost as if they had planned it. In some cases though we found a single zebra mixed with the wildebeast or a springbok hiding amongst the zebra. By the way, they say ZEBra, Vildebeast, and ElEfant. It's wonderful!
We asked about this and the Ranger said, animals like other animals that look like them, it makes them feel safe, but when it gets dark it all changes, it's about numbers and you find the biggest group you can hoping they will protect you from the lions. He went on to say how some animals have learned to use other animals, for instance a lot of animals will congregate with the giraffe as they make wonderful lookouts and can warn a herd before the lions get a chance to get too close. Some animals like the elephant will even defend other animals when they hear a distress call. I've heard dolphins do the same and have even saved a human or two!
I've been blessed to have met some of the right people at the right time, and be in the right place at the right time, and I can see now how it's changed my life. Maybe I am who I am by way of birth, maybe I learned it along the way, but there are three key events in my life that have shaped me for the better. Being thrust into a third-world country at a tender age and seeing how the rest of the world lives, watching my son being born and knowing there's more to life than sadness, and being gifted a chance to be with the animals and knowing I am a part of them as much as I am separate from them.
Life is an amazing thing, with sadness that breaks my heart, but there's beauty here too, the beauty of knowing a small springbok is welcome to hide amongst the zebra, beauty to know to know the joy of a child, and beauty to know for all our differences we are really all the same! S-